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This may sound kinda stupid as I am only 13, but yea..
I kinda like this girl from my class, but I don't know what to do. I am pretty good in "acting normal" with friends and stuff, but I am kinda awkward with this thing. Also, one guy from my class (pretty ok guy) likes her too.
It may seem kinda bad to some people as I'm asking help for a life problem, but I'm pretty awkward at this, as I said. So yeah >.>
 

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no idea, I am really bad at this aswell xD I wish you goodluck though!
 

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Well, the first step to getting a girl is to talk to them. If you don't talk to them and act all shy they wont bother interacting/getting to know you. If there is another guy in your class that likes her too- this should steer you on. I would want to get that girl to like me before the other guy or my competitor has a chance to get her to like him.

All in all, I think you should just get to know her and speak to her A LOT more. She will get to know you, and possibly start to like you too. <3
 

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As a female being on this planet~ I hope to offer a few suggestions that perhaps as a 13 year old would have been helpful to the guys in my class (not that they were awkward or anything of the sort)

1. Just Be Yourself~ no need to be fake because eventually your true self will come out no matter what you do.
2. Find Things You Have in Common~ its best to get to know this girl over things that you both enjoy... if you have nothing in common then perhaps you would be best of not pursuing this girl.
3. If you are friends with this fellow who also likes this girl then make sure you do not jeopardize your friendship-

Good luck :)
 
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Alright, even though I am few years older than you I have had the same problem (my friend liked her as well) and what I did was just become great friends with her, and I asked her out a few weeks later... And now we're going out. :p
but being as you're only 13, I would leave it for a few more years. If you want to ask my anymore questions about this, feel free to PM me.
 

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Here's what I propose...
The other guy likes her too?
Simple, kidnap him, then put him in one of those giant machine thingies like in the Men in Black 3, and wipe out his memory,
then, alter the girl's memory using some sort of trick like they have shown in the anime 'Bleach', and make sure she has a crush on you too.
It is 100% effective.

But jokes asides, having a crush on someone can be quite a big thing, but remember this, confidence.
You should be confident about yourself when in a situation like this, as mentioned before, you should step up and go ahead and chat with her. And yes, maybe there's competition, but as long as you keep your self steady minded, you could succeed winning her heart.
Make sure you make the first move, and as a word of advice,
relationships take time, so make sure that she is truly worth your time,
and you should definitely build it up step by step, become closer friends with her, or eventually, you two could become best friends and maybe make your move when inviting her to the cinema.

You should also consider the worst-case scenarios. What's the worst that could happen?
The other guy gets the girl,
or the girl is not interested and could potentially be in a relationship.
Considering these factors doesn't seem too fierce, because you can always move on when it is all over. There's no shame looking for love, and falling in love.
We wish you the best of luck!

Oh, and one last thing, I highly encourage you not to take relationship advice from strangers on the internet, you'll never know what might happen. c:
 

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Simple, become her friend. If you're her friend she will feel more open to share things with you and trust you. Then always invite her to hang out. Over time she will either like you more than a friend or she won't. If she doesn't it's not because you're a bad guy, it's because she has diffrent taste in men.

Being her friend is also good for future crushes. She can help you out when you have another crush and you can help her with hers.

The more girls you have as just friend. The more they want to introduce you to their friends and possible new girlfriends.

I know you're only 13, but you might as well learn now than later haha.
 
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Well, the first step to getting a girl is to talk to them. If you don't talk to them and act all shy they wont bother interacting/getting to know you. If there is another guy in your class that likes her too- this should steer you on. I would want to get that girl to like me before the other guy or my competitor has a chance to get her to like him.

All in all, I think you should just get to know her and speak to her A LOT more. She will get to know you, and possibly start to like you too. <3
We talk here and then in breaks and stuff with that girl, but not a lot >.>

As a female being on this planet~ I hope to offer a few suggestions that perhaps as a 13 year old would have been helpful to the guys in my class (not that they were awkward or anything of the sort)

1. Just Be Yourself~ no need to be fake because eventually your true self will come out no matter what you do.
2. Find Things You Have in Common~ its best to get to know this girl over things that you both enjoy... if you have nothing in common then perhaps you would be best of not pursuing this girl.
3. If you are friends with this fellow who also likes this girl then make sure you do not jeopardize your friendship-

Good luck :)
I surely am myself, I never want to look like someone else. Also, we have a bit of things in common, and me and that guy are kinda friends, so yeah, if this guy REALLY likes her I guess I'm just going to "leave" her.

Alright, even though I am few years older than you I have had the same problem (my friend liked her as well) and what I did was just become great friends with her, and I asked her out a few weeks later... And now we're going out. :p
but being as you're only 13, I would leave it for a few more years. If you want to ask my anymore questions about this, feel free to PM me.
Well in Greece, pre-High School is 3 years, so I guess I will try talking more to her and stuff in a year or so, when I will not be that awkward like I am now. I don't have anything else to ask, but thanks for offering your help ^.^

Here's what I propose...
The other guy likes her too?
Simple, kidnap him, then put him in one of those giant machine thingies like in the Men in Black 3, and wipe out his memory,
then, alter the girl's memory using some sort of trick like they have shown in the anime 'Bleach', and make sure she has a crush on you too.
It is 100% effective.

But jokes asides, having a crush on someone can be quite a big thing, but remember this, confidence.
You should be confident about yourself when in a situation like this, as mentioned before, you should step up and go ahead and chat with her. And yes, maybe there's competition, but as long as you keep your self steady minded, you could succeed winning her heart.
Make sure you make the first move, and as a word of advice,
relationships take time, so make sure that she is truly worth your time,
and you should definitely build it up step by step, become closer friends with her, or eventually, you two could become best friends and maybe make your move when inviting her to the cinema.

You should also consider the worst-case scenarios. What's the worst that could happen?
The other guy gets the girl,
or the girl is not interested and could potentially be in a relationship.
Considering these factors doesn't seem too fierce, because you can always move on when it is all over. There's no shame looking for love, and falling in love.
We wish you the best of luck!

Oh, and one last thing, I highly encourage you not to take relationship advice from strangers on the internet, you'll never know what might happen. c:
I don't really want to think what happens or what doesn't happen. I like her, if she doesn't like me, I'm just going to stay friends with her, so I'm not going to fall in depression or something ^.^

Simple, become her friend. If you're her friend she will feel more open to share things with you and trust you. Then always invite her to hang out. Over time she will either like you more than a friend or she won't. If she doesn't it's not because you're a bad guy, it's because she has diffrent taste in men.

Being her friend is also good for future crushes. She can help you out when you have another crush and you can help her with hers.

The more girls you have as just friend. The more they want to introduce you to their friends and possible new girlfriends.

I know you're only 13, but you might as well learn now than later haha.
Thanks I guess :D


Wow, thanks everyone for the replies, really appreciate it ^.^
 

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